"Zerofret" (zerofret)
08/08/2014 at 17:48 • Filed to: None
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"Zerofret" (zerofret)
08/08/2014 at 17:48 • Filed to: None | 0
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Update on my situation.
Previously:
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So, We went to the park and sweat our butts off in this awful Texas heat. When we pulled up to her house, I just told her how I felt. She's one of those people who doesn't like to be put in those situations so I did most of the talking and left her with me saying, "The only thing I can ask of you is that you pray about it.", (We both serve in our church), and regardless of her decision I'll always be her friend and I'll always be there for her. She thanked me for my honesty and for being brave enough to tell her. Then we parted ways. As I left I felt really weird because I didn't get a concrete yes or no. About 6 hours have passed and now she's texting me, but not about what just happened between us. Just random stuff. I'm so confused. Girls are weird.
My brain right now:
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K-Roll-PorscheTamer
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 17:56 |
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Uh....(You're thinking exactly what I'm thinking, or maybe the other way around??)
Such confusion...
Mercedes Streeter
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 17:56 |
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This is considering you asked her out or otherwise suggested something that deserves an answer:
For me, if she doesn't say "yes" or "no" right then and there (or at least right after by text, if she's shy), then it's either a "no" or I'm in the express lane to the friend zone.**
I usually wait it out, but thus far, for every time a girl that has not responded right away (or at all), it's always been "no" or "let's be friends" some time down the road.
**Which, isn't bad if you're cool with having another lady friend. :)
P.S. To me, "maybe" usually also equals "no". Not always, but usually. There should be no sitting on the fence.
ttyymmnn
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 17:57 |
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She's one of those people who doesn't like to be put in those situations....
Then don't expect too much. She'll either talk to you about it, or she won't. You've made your case, now it's up to her. Just keep doing what you two have been doing together, and see where it goes.
Where in TX? It's plenty hot here in Austin.
OPPOsaurus WRX
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 17:59 |
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dont try to figure her or. You'll just huey yourself. I just had my 3rd anniversary and still hasn't figured out the female thought process. We actually just had an argument. She tossed a cup of water on meand ran out of the house. I filled a bowl with water climbed out the window and dumped it on her head. We re good now. Figure that out.
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Zerofret
> ttyymmnn
08/08/2014 at 18:01 |
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I'm up here in Fort Worth. its about 105 right now
Leadbull
> OPPOsaurus WRX
08/08/2014 at 18:02 |
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Pictured: hueying oneself
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K-Roll-PorscheTamer
> OPPOsaurus WRX
08/08/2014 at 18:02 |
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That sounds lovely.
Textured Soy Protein
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 18:07 |
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"The only thing I can ask of you is that you pray about it.", (We both serve in our church)
Wait, why the hell would you ask a girl to pray about you just telling her you like her?
Also why would you make this big long speech professing your several years of liking her, that ends in the need for prayer, when you could just say "hey I like you wanna go do something?"
No need to make shit overcomplicated.
Pray on it. Pfft.
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OPPOsaurus WRX
> Leadbull
08/08/2014 at 18:08 |
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I think she realized she was outmatched and settled before things for it if hand. We were both laughing about it
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OPPOsaurus WRX
> OPPOsaurus WRX
08/08/2014 at 18:08 |
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edit : hurt . Damn auto correct
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Mercedes Streeter
> Textured Soy Protein
08/08/2014 at 18:17 |
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Ditto! This was my single greatest mistake when dating. I'd go overkill, thinking all the extra crap would make a good selling point to say "yes".
All it did was give them reason to say "maybe" or "you're a great guy, but..."
So I flipped the script and became direct. Ask a simple "yes" or "no" question. I no longer end up wasting my time and I also no longer get "friend-zoned".
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Leadbull
> Textured Soy Protein
08/08/2014 at 18:26 |
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Maybe because they both consider faith to be an important part of their lives.
We try not to trivialize people's beliefs here.
ViperGuy21
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 18:28 |
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Hey, I'm in Mansfield! Tell me about the heat! I was at band all friggin day!
And it must be something with girls around here, cause that sounds a lot like an experience I had!
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Textured Soy Protein
> Leadbull
08/08/2014 at 18:30 |
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I'm not trivializing beliefs. They can pray to Jesus, Allah, Jehovah, Joseph Smith, Fred Phelps, or the Flying Spaghetti Monster for all I care.
I'm trivializing making such a big deal out of him telling a girl he likes her, that it's some big life event that has to be prayed on.
Just ask her out and be done with it!
GhostZ
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 18:33 |
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In my experience (gathered from many, many friends as well) being "honest" and "upfront" about your feelings and making a big event about telling someone your true feelings! about them all romantically generally means that you just acted like an obsessive fool who is taking these things way too seriously.
This puts her in the position of either saying no and breaking your heart (which makes her into a total bitch that she doesn't want anyone to think of her as) or keeping you at a distance so you get "let down easily" (aka the "friend zone"). Or, she's legitimately interested and she needs to get you to straighten out and re-prioritize yourself so you aren't so damn threatening with how important she seems to you.
That being said, the fact that she's still texting you and being friendly means that she probably is willing to give this thing a go. Now show her you can be a sane, mature, responsible and stable individual who knows exactly what they want, but also knows what boundaries not to cross.
This is why girls date jerks: they're predictable and safe and they always have a reason to leave that doesn't make other people think badly on them.
Also, most important, don't treat this in any way as if you're going to marry this girl, or that God wills you two to be together and he will light the path for you. The more seriously you take this, the more dangerous it becomes for both of you and the more likely it will not work.
Conan
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 18:48 |
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They are always, always, always like that. I thought I broke up with my girlfriend and then she came over to my house, declared she had an earache, and curled up in my lap and fell asleep.
Joshua
> GhostZ
08/08/2014 at 19:08 |
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YUP...hit the nail on the head.
The fact that 6 hours later she is textin ya is a good thing. I have no idea what it means but it is good.
jariten1781
> Conan
08/08/2014 at 19:18 |
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Haha...my wife once got an apartment and moved half the stuff out of the house. She then proceeded to spend every night at my house sleeping on the couch. 6 months later she moved the stuff back. It was so weird...and a waste of money...but whatev
TheBloody, Oppositelock lives on in our shitposts.
> Zerofret
08/08/2014 at 20:20 |
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Any man who claims to understand women is either a lair or an idiot... or both, normally both.